My HeartMath Experience

I discovered Heartmath techniques along with so many other’s when I was at a lower point in my life.  My energy was low, I was anxious for no reason!!!None that I could find as my mind was working overtime.  I am not one to wallow in it, yes I hit hurdles but I get back up and keep on trying…what other option is there..  LOTS..I later discovered.

So I discovered HeartMath, bought the earpiece and hooked it up to my ipad.  It felt like a futuristic way to meditate but it is so much more than sitting clearing your mind and if you stick at it you will feel the difference.

Below are the steps for heart focused breathing – once you get this down, add some of your fave tunes.  I found my face aches after doing a session, I just smile all the way through it really relishing my memories of amazing adventures and loving the good tunes along the way

There are three steps:

Step 1: Heart Focus. Focus your attention on the area around your heart, the area in the center of your chest. The first couple of times you try it, place your hand over the center of your chest to help keep your attention in the heart area.

Step 2: Heart Breathing. Breathe deeply but normally and feel as if your breath is coming in and going out through your heart area. As you inhale, feel as if your breath is flowing in through the heart, and as you exhale, feel it leaving through this area. Breathe slowly and casually, a little deeper than normal. Continue breathing with ease until you find a natural inner rhythm that feels good to you.

Step 3: Heart Feeling. As you maintain your heart focus and heart breathing, activate a positive feeling. Recall a positive feeling, a time when you felt good inside, and try to re-experience the feeling. It may be a memory of your family or your children when they were young.  One of the easiest ways to generate a positive, heart-based feeling is to remember a special place you’ve been or the love you feel for a close friend or family member or treasured pet. This is the most important step.

Quick Coherence® is especially useful when you start to feel a draining emotion such as frustration, irritation, anxiety or stress. Using Quick Coherence at the onset of less intense negative emotions can keep them from escalating into something worse. This technique is especially useful after you’ve had an emotional blowup to bring yourself back into balance quickly.

When I HAVE I shall be Happy – Bullsh*t

When I own my home I shall be Happy

When I buy my new Car I shall be Happy

When I loose a stone I shall be Happy

When I live someplace sunny I shall be Happy

Do you remember how long your happiness lasted when you got your new car? Was it a Day a Week a Month, did it then become just a car and your happiness levels went right back down to where they normally sit?

Seeking happiness from outside sources may seem like a good idea or even the only idea but without working on yourself from the inside then your happiness levels will always go back to the level they were at before and if that wasn’t a great level then you could be in for some dark days.

Here are a few tips to help you out

Don’t waste your time chasing happiness you’re looking in the wrong place and missing the joy of now. Learn to enjoy the scenery as you travel through your days. Life on this planet is a never ending story.

  Stop sitting and waiting

You can’t sit back and wait for the perfect moment. What if it never comes?

You might be waiting for life to really begin, but first there’s obstacles and hurdles to get past. Or there’s something else that needs to be done before you can really get going.

There’s a big surprise in store for you, when you wake up one morning and discover those challenges and obstacles and things that needed doing first, were in fact your life.

And you’ll have used up your precious time waiting. Don’t do this to yourself.

Jump into life with both feet and take a chances. Get yourself a dream, because your dream creates your actions and your actions make up your life.

Enjoy the ride

If you’ve been going through life avoiding as many negative emotions as possible, I’ve got news for you. It doesn’t help. And it probably hurts.

Emotions are messengers, sent to remind us of what we’re doing or thinking.  They’re trying to get your attention.

Give the messenger a chance by allowing the feeling. You don’t have to wallow in bad breaks or nasty break-ups, but you do need to give yourself permission to feel unhappy or sad and scared.

Life will always be up and down. Feel the feelings, then move on and enjoy the ride. Don’t ever allow the hurts and pains of life to stick around because they’re waiting to be felt. Let them in and let them go.

If you realized how powerful your feelings were you’d allow them in and release them as soon as you could. Get this step right, so you can move forward.

Find the strength within

Failure isn’t horrifying, or something to be ashamed of, no matter what you’ve been told. It doesn’t mean you don’t measure up, but that you’re stretching yourself beyond your current limits. 

It’s a winning game plan for life and frees you from the exhaustion of perfectionism.

Look at the lightbulb man thomas edison – he failed thousands of times before the light turned on, he never looked upon each one as a failure, just getting closer to the goal.

A child when learning to walk doesn’t try a few times then give up, no they keep on falling down until they can do it.

Remember those who never make a mistake, rarely make anything at all. And even if you never learn to love failure, don’t let that stop you from being like most of the great ones in life, who failed their way to success. It worked for them and it can work for you.

Be of service

By being yourself. The greatest gift you can give the rest of us is to walk your talk. Be honest with where you are. So you’re having a crappy day. Fine. Have people around you that you can be honest with.

Sometimes letting people support you is all you need to get back on track.

And do the same for others. Encourage them. Raise them up. Show them how valuable and necessary they are in our world.

Each one of us has something unique to bring to life, some special role to play. Don’t hide behind a mask of ‘how I should be’. The only ‘should’ that matters is that you be totally, brilliantly you.

I used to always think people would think I was shit to be around if I wasn’t happy but now I realise who really gives a toss.  It is ok to have down times, just don’t stick around in downtown city, get your ass back up and slap that smile on.

Get it done.

Is getting something done. Letting things pile up… be they unfinished projects, or unpaid bills or unspoken resentments, is a surefire way to step into a state of overwhelm. And nothing good comes out of overwhelm.

Invest a little time every night to save a lot of time every day.

Each night before bed decide on the most important things to be done tomorrow. And write them down, as though they were accomplished.

‘I’m really happy and grateful now that….I finished that project that’s been hanging over my head….I had that conversation I’ve been putting off for weeks…I set up those appointments I’ve been procrastinating about’.

Read them before falling asleep at night and you’ll be doing what many of the great inventors did, using your subconscious mind to work on your behalf while you sleep.

Create your own reality

When the day is over let it go. Mistakes might have been made. You did the best you could. And if you didn’t, tomorrow is waiting, fresh and new and filled with possibility. Don’t carry the nonsense of yesterday into tomorrow.

New experiences are waiting. But they exist only as possibilities as long as you think ‘of them’. They become overpoweringly real when you think ‘from them’ as though they already were.

You have been given the power of imagination. Use it.

Experience in your imagination what you wish were happening in your life, and as you successfully heighten your ability to use your imagination, you’ll discover this inner, invisible world to be the source of your reality; you’ll be living from your highest self.

 

Gratitude Jars

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Starting a Gratitude jar in your  home is such a great way to notice all the little things that go on during the day that you can be grateful for.  The little  moments that pass by unchecked can be written down and popped into the gratitude jars and will help to promote the good and make you really appreciate your life.

From that few minutes you got to sit down and read a page out your book whilst tea was cooking, to the hug from your little ones or the one time the dog didn’t bark when the door went.  Really noticing all the people, things and situations around you that you have to be thankful for opens up a whole other world.  When we appreciate what we already have  it makes room in our life for more good things to come our way.

So take a moment now and think about what happened in your life today, no matter how small it is and pop a note in the jar.  Get the family involved, its such a great thing to do and see what everyone else has to be grateful for.

Thank you to anyone who reads this, I am truly Grateful.

Namaste

Meganni Franklyn

 

Note To Self – Always Be A Kid

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You can be a child by enjoying small things and being happy with almost anything.Don’t mistake “being a kid at heart” for immaturity. As adults, we learn to become more mature and responsible individuals. Ironically, I believe one of the biggest signs of maturity is choosing to be a kid at heart.Part of me melts every time I encounter children because I observe their carefree, happy, innocent nature, from which adults could stand to learn.

Here are 11 reasons why you are a kid at heart:

1. You always smile.I absolutely adore when a kid smiles at me. It’s highly contagious and impossible for me not to smile back. Children smile because they are truly happy, as their lives are not complicated or filled with much responsibility.They find joy and pure happiness in the simplest things, and they share those giggles with everyone. Charlie Chapman said it best: “A day without laughter is a day wasted.”

 

2. You forgive freely and know every day is a fresh start.Have you ever noticed that children have the uncanny ability to see every day as a new beginning? They forget about the past easily and don’t hold grudges.When two children fight, they are upset for that time period, but then, the very next day, they are best friends again. As we grow into adults, this becomes tougher and we find it difficult to forgive and let things go.It’s never too late to forgive and start all over.

3. You believe and dream big.In a child’s world, nothing is impossible. The ability of children to believe sparks faith and optimism to never give up. Many adults lose this ability because we tend to see things for how they were or are, rather than how they could be.If we made an effort and believed in pursuing our dreams, we would be more likely to achieve them, even if those dreams seem nearly impossible to accomplish

 

.4. You are carefree and fearless.Children have the most amazing ability to be carefree and fearless. They are limitless and have no boundaries because they are not yet confined by the fear of shame or failure; they do things because they just don’t know any better.As we grow into adults, we tend to worry or fear the unknown and what others may think of us.Embrace what life has to offer in a carefree and fearless manner so you can be unstoppable

 

.5. You are active.I remember when I was a little kid, I played hopscotch, jump-roped to “Cinderella, dressed in yellow, went upstairs to kiss her fellow,” ran around the grass with the sprinklers on, had mud fights and did cartwheels for days. I found joy in doing these everyday activities without even thinking of them as forms of exercise.To be honest, I still do some of these things and for the same damn reason — it’s fun.6. You take pleasure in little things.When I was a kid, I would get so excited every Sunday when the ice cream truck made its way around our neighborhood. But, it wasn’t the ice cream I was enthusiastic about; it was more so the song that made me giddytime I heard the truck’s tune, I ran to my dad, asked him to open up the garage, sprinted outside and busted out crazy dance moves to my jam.My dad would then proceed to buy me my favorite rainbow popsicle, which I found fascinating because my tongue turned different colors after licking it.Those simple things made me so happy. As we grow into adults, we take things for granted and stop taking pleasure in the little things. Why do we stop noticing the simple things that have the potential to bring us joy?

7. You love unconditionally.The best thing about children is their love. They could care less about your flaws; they don’t care what you look like, who you are, where you are from or what you do because their love is limitless.It’s true what Mahatma Gandhi stated:The law of love could be best understood and learned through little children.

 

8. You use your creativity and imagination.I remember losing myself in creative activities as a child. I drew pictures for hours, played with clay, built spaceships and rockets out of LEGOs, pretended I was on the “Lizzie McGuire” show, and then bust out, “Hi, my name is Sheena from ‘Lizzie McGuire’ and you’re watching Disney Channel!”For some reason, as we get older, we get busier. We stop seeing these creative activities as meaningful and worthwhile. The truth is, creativity is the reason our world is so advanced. One should never lose his or her imagination.

 

9. You have endless curiosity.As a kid, I remember continuously asking my parents questions: Where did we come from? Why do people die? Where is God? What does this mean? I was curious but clueless.Children know they don’t know everything, so they ask a million and one questions to gain knowledge and understanding. Answer this: Isn’t asking questions better than not asking any questions at all?

 

10. You ask for help.I remember when two boys bullied me in second grade. Call it tattletaling if you must, but for me, it was simply asking for help. Children always ask for help because they don’t know what they are doing or how to handle certain situations.As we grow into adults, we sometimes look at asking for help as weakness. Always feel empowered to ask for help, whether it be on how to do something or how to get through something. We aren’t alone; we all need help every now and then.

 

11. If you fall, you get back up and run.When a child takes a tumble, he or she might need to be comforted for a bit, but then, the child quickly recovers and runs off to play.As adults, we may be hurt, but as long as we pick ourselves back up and move on, the bruises begin to finally heal.Subscribe to Elite Daily’s official newsletter,

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The Edge, for more stories you don’t want to miss. 475 Shares Sheena Amin Contributor Sheena is a contributing writer based in Irvine, California. She graduated from University of California Irvine in 2013 with a degree in Public Health.

 

 

Please share your Happy Moment

Quick Coherence® Technique

Create a coherent state in about a minute with the simple, but powerful steps of the Quick Coherence® Technique. Using the power of your heart to balance thoughts and emotions, you can achieve energy, mental clarity and feel better fast anywhere. Use Quick Coherence especially when you begin feeling a draining emotion such as frustration, irritation, anxiety or anger. Find a feeling of ease and inner harmony that’s reflected in more balanced heart rhythms, facilitating brain function and more access to higher intelligence.

Steps for Quick Coherence Technique:

Step 1: Focus your attention in the area of the heart. Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart or chest area, breathing a little slower and deeper than usual.

Suggestion: Inhale 5 seconds, exhale 5 seconds (or whatever rhythm is comfortable)

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Step 2: Make a sincere attempt to experience a regenerative feeling such as appreciation or care for someone or something in your life.

Suggestion: Try to re-experience the feeling you have for someone you love, a pet, a special place, an accomplishment, etc. or focus on a feeling of calm or ease.

So what is everyones happy place?  The memory that first popped into your mind where you were truly happy.   No drunken pill popping moments, boo… I have so many of those ones.. They have to be real happy moments from your heart.

So what was mine.  –  I was in Magaluf, Party Heaven. Yes I know I said no drunken ones and this really isn’t.  So picture this.. Its Daytime, its sunny and I am on a Pedalo with my friend and little brother who  came to visit me for a holiday.  (I was a Pr rep living the dream!) Well,  her little brother was desperate for a pee but was scared that sharks would get him..He was 14 and a little drama queen and I loved to wind him up!! So I told him to just pee in the water..so he did..Then we wouldn’t let him back on the pedalo and I nearly wet myself laughing at him splashing around screaming like a little girl…Ok so I sound like a cruel b*tch but honestly he was laughing too…It has always stuck with me as It was true hilarity and a beautiful care free day with only fun and games on my mind.